Hello, Goodbye/ The Group of Sadness

A sad part of life, is learning to say goodbye. I've been told many times over the years that our culture teaches to engage in new things and learn how to say yes and hello. However, people rarely are taught how to deal with moving on and saying goodbye. It's something we learn on our own. We say goodbye when we move, lose people close to us, or even just grow into another part of our life. Times like graduating or changing jobs create a new feeling of leaving what you had. It may be difficult for some people to change. The type of people who like reflect on the good times, and perhaps cannot push themselves into new things as easily as others. For many years I was like that, I had trouble reaching out to people and felt alone. It's odd when you feel that type of anxious loneliness, you are conscious of all the people sharing that feeling with you, but you still feel uniquely distinct in your solitude. Almost as if you are part of this underground group of lonely people. But, it is a group with little support, and great sadness. As I have become better in social situations, I have become less aware of the people in the group of sadness. For these people it is hard to say goodbye. Hard, because they stay in their comfort zones, and when they lose that safety net, they become scared of the future. They dwell on the past because it's where they felt safe. Time goes fast, generations change, life is in constant forward motion. It's important to look at the past, but you cannot get lost in it. You must learn to say goodbye. It's something I'm learning how to do as I try to move on in my own life. The group of sadness must learn to do this as well. Try to embrace new things, you don't have to be everyone else, you just have to move on as yourself. Be able to be okay with how you are living life. If you aren't happy, then say goodbye to the feels, they won't help you. Look for new things you enjoy. Because for every time you say goodbye, it gives you a chance to say hello to something new. You don't have to say hello to anything, but just try to enjoy where you are. Perhaps my empathy has turned to sympathy, but I assure you, if you're stuck in the past, it will be hard to live the future.